Inheritance From Dickson Idlier

98% of the problems are all in your head but never happened. Overthinking leads to anxiety disorder. Wasting time and energy over meaningless thoughts. Calm your mind down and get rid of those thoughts and you will be fine.  —— Dickson Idlier

Thoughts can be dangerous. They are seeds of all goodness or evil and can  appears any moment in your mind. A thought is a thought and most of the time it never happens in reality. Eliminate weeds of negative thoughts of anxiety, negativity, desire, greed and lust before it gets a strangling hold on you. Have a beautiful garden full of flowering positive thoughts of compassion, joy, freedom, and peace.  —— Dickson Idlier

If life sucks, quit complaining. Making better choices is only possible if changing your mindset first. Else you still make the same choice you did previously. Calm your mind, review your goals, re-evaluate your needs and priorities and then decide.  —— Dickson Idlier

Beautiful things are not material objects, but people, places, feelings and memories that you experienced. Cherish the people and moments that created these beautiful things. Once you understand this truth, you can have more beautiful things in your life and not things taking up your precious space.   —— Dickson Idlier

You don’t want to waste time and effort convincing someone who JUST DON’T GET IT. No response is to keep your peace and let the foolish continue to be. Your peace is more important than anything else.  —— Dickson Idlier Keeping silence when someone is expecting a response is the best response. Eventually they will not bother you anymore and your peace is restored. Life is good and quiet.  —— Dickson Idlier

Life has too much uncertainties. Enjoy your life as you live. Don't let your desires distract you from living a more fulfilling life.  —— Dickson Idlier 

Without attachments and desires, there will be no disappointment and loss. Just go with the flow and let nature takes its course. What yours will eventually be yours and not yours will never be yours. The catch is how desperate you want it and how hard you work for it.   —— Dickson Idlier

Time is precious to everyone. Use it wisely with someone or something that matters to you. Those not worthy let them bother someone else.  —— Dickson Idlier 

You can never outrun your problems. You must face them head-on or seek help from others if the problem is beyond you. Never hold on to problems until it gets too big. Learn from the Chinese saying, turn big problems into small ones, and small problems into no problems at all(大事化小，小事化无).   —— Dickson Idlier

Changing ourselves is the most difficult thing to do and sometimes going against our principles but doing that may let you see things from a different perspective. Learn to observe and change ourselves accordingly to be in control again.  —— Dickson Idlier

Other people are not you. They should not manipulate how you live your life.  ONLY YOU  can decide for yourself. Ignore their opinion or take it with a pinch of salt. Freeing yourself from other people's opinion will set you free to be true to yourself.  —— Dickson Idlier

What goes around comes around. Don't do unto others what you don't want done unto you.(Confucius) Be more conscious about your actions and try to be in another person's shoes before you act. Karma is real and always watching you.  —— Dickson Idlier

Maintaining relationships is all about BALANCE.  A little too much or too little creates friction in relations. However, some relationships are not meant to last as people change. Remember, nothing last forever . Treasure it while you can.  —— Dickson Idlier 

Marriage is one of the things in life that requires two people to put in the effort to succeed. It is the biggest decision to take and a lifetime to fulfil it. It is all about  BALANCE . The balance is crucial. Only when being able to find the correct balance and consistently adjusting it will you achieve aa blissful marriage.  —— Dickson Idlier

Speak only to those who want to listen. Else silence is the best response. Getting rid of some people not worthy in your life is inevitable. You need to let go to free yourself from them. So have you let it go already?  —— Dickson Idlier

Contentment is a bliss. You will find happiness with what we already have so there is no need for any external influence. You will realize that you only need so little to be 'rich' in your own way (memories, experiences, etc) so you don't waste too much time earning money.   —— Dickson Idlier

Why compare yourself with others? It is not an apple to apple comparison at all. Each of us has different lives to live and a purpose to fulfil. Just be who you are and be good at it as well. You will be surprised what is the outcome.   —— Dickson Idlier You are who you are. Life is unfair but it is up to you to do what you can do. Be content with what you have and you will be one of the happier people against hordes of unhappy people in this society. I believe to get out of current society (rat race) is to create your own or join others' simplicity society.  —— Dickson Idlier

Image by  Borko Manigoda  from  Pixabay Your money is truly yours only upon spending it. Not your salary or savings in the bank. Not some fix assets or investment you made. Why not? Because these money that you “earned” that is supposedly yours is actually not yours yet. However, if you were to die now, all yours will be handed over to someone else right? That is why owning something is useless unless you use it, or in this context, spend it. —— Dickson Idlier * I must emphasize that I do not mean spending all the money you have and don’t plan for the future. Spend money wisely, buying essentials is justifiable. Over-consumerism is not. My opinion is leaving money to your family members is best with a mixture of insurance and investment, especially your spouse and children. But they need to rely on themselves as well. Knowing how to live is better than a fat bank account.

Don't treat my kindness as my weakness. Knowing but doesn't show means I still treat you as a friend. Overdo it and we are done!   ——Dickson Idlier