@发牢骚：我累了

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要你独立不是我的本意，我太累了是我的真心。。。
闲人·迪克森

我累了。。。

我不想再这样生活了。我认为我的努力没有任何价值。不要把我的体贴当成必然的。我的溺爱造成我现在的状况。我妻子变成一个依赖我的人。原本只是想幫她减轻她家庭负担，让她好过一点。却变成这样的下场。可能以前我管的太多，变的她和我岳母一样，做事靠张嘴的坏习惯。也许这是我的家庭传统，是靠本事说话，我很难认可这么一个家庭。不要把我当作一个工具人。我是一个有血有肉的一个人。嗨。。。

有一次，我注意到她对我这个游手好闲的人并不满意。尽管她确实提到她很感激我为她做饭，但我仍然认为我有一些不满。她只是抱怨“她登上了海盗船”，这是我们过去常说的关于我们关系的笑话，她似乎是认真的。这让我很不开心，感觉我所做的与赚钱相比似乎有些不足。她除了赚钱，回家只看电视和Shoppee直播，坐在沙发上，直到最近在商业休息时，当我准备晚餐时，才有所帮助。我也想让我的妻子为我做饭，照顾我，而不是总是依赖我来照顾她。在2023年3月20日，我告诉她我想自私一次，完全不想再打理任何事情。

女人不可以不独立。不能每次要被当公主伺候着。有事时就想老公，没事时不当一回事。从工作里找成功感，因为生活找不到，是可以。但是不要埋怨工作忙，工作累。这是你自找的。你什么都是为了你家人，有空才想到我。当你把家人放在第一位是，就不要后悔你不是老公的第一位。

过日子是这样过的吗？

助人着自助。帮助别人的人也要快乐才可以帮助别人。我不快乐了。我累了。我什么都不想管，不想做了。我要放很长很长的假。我是个男人但我不想这样走下去。这样过日子太没意思，太累了对我来说。

我终于得到了当之无愧的休息、走上了成为真正闲人的道路。

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