@GRUMBLE: I Am Tired

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It is not my intention to ask you to be independent, is I am truly too tired . . .
Dickson Idlier

I don't want to live like this anymore. I don't think my efforts are worth anything. Don't take my consideration for granted. My indulgence has caused my current situation. My wife has become a dependent person on me. Originally, I just wanted to help her alleviate the burden on her family and make her feel better. But it turned out like this. Maybe I used to manage too much, and she became like my mother-in-law in the bad habit of relying on her mouth to do things. Don't use me as a tool man(Simp) . I am a person with flesh and blood. Sigh...

Once, I noticed that she wasn't satisfied with me as a loafer. Although she did mention that she appreciated me cooking for her, I still think I have some dissatisfaction. She just complained that "she boarded the pirate ship," which was a joke we used to say about our relationship, and she seemed to be serious. This makes me very unhappy, and it seems that what I have done is somewhat inadequate compared to making money. In addition to making money, seated on the sofa watching TV and Shoppee live and only recently during commercial breaks to help me out during cooking after I exercised. I also want my wife to cook for me and take care of me instead of always relying on me to take care of her. Maybe it's my family tradition, but I'm tired now. On March 20th, 2023, I told her that I wanted to be selfish once and didn't want to take care of anything anymore.

Women must be independent. You can't be treated as a princess every time. Only think about your husband when you have something problems, but neglect him when you don't need him. Finding a sense of success from work is fine since in life cannot find it. But don't complain about busy or tired from work. You asked for it. You do everything for your family and only think of me when you have time. If you put your family first, don't regret you're not your husband's first priority.

Is our lives going to be like this?

Help others need to help themselves first. Those who help others must also be happy before they can help others. I am not happy anymore. I'm tired. I don't want to care about anything or do anything. I'm going on a long, long vacation. As a man but I don't want to go on like this. Living like this is too boring, too tiring for me.

I am finally on the path to become a true idler and well deserved break.

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